Worrying will not change your external world, it will just stop your internal world enjoy what's good in your life.
Stop focusing on what is wrong and start focusing on what you have in your life.
What you focus on effects how you see and experience your life.
There is always something to be grateful for if you look in the right direction.
Stop for a moment and think how someone would react if you said to them what you tell yourself on a daily basis?
Sadly so many women’s self talk is negative and erodes their self-esteem. We spend so much time telling ourselves that we’re not good enough, smart enough, talented enough, or thin enough.
Our self-talk affects us in a very powerful way. If we think something is possible, we’re more likely to make the effort to achieve it. If we think it’s impossible, we won’t even bother trying.
Also our negative self talk has a physical impact on our bodies, effecting our blood pressure, muscle tension, temperature, breathing rate and heart rate, which makes us feel so much more anxious and stressed.
In contrast, when we experience positive thoughts, we flood our brains with endorphins, which helps us relax so we are more alert and centred. As a result, we’re far more likely to be confident, optimistic, and motivated to do what it takes to achieve our goals.
Pay attention to your self talk today and only say things to yourself that you would say to someone you love!
If you put all your focus on your words, actions and attitude, combined with 100% effort you will have amazing results.
If you also stop trying to control what you can't control, you will be unstoppable!
To achieve anything, especially a goal or dream, you need to take steps toward them. Actually you need to take daily steps towards them, as this is the only way to truly keep your focus & achieve what you want in life.
Here are 7 simple tips that if you put them into practice will help you take the steps to get things done!
Write down your goal
Write down the goal that is in your mind, as it is only a dream until it is in writing. This then becomes a statement of intent. The process of writing down your goal forces the subconscious to accept the commitment you have made to work towards your target. It has been suggested that you should read out your goals every morning to keep you focused throughout each day.
Set a deadline
Set a target date by which you will complete your goal. If your goal is a larger, more complicated goal, break it down into smaller steps & determine a deadline for each separate step. If you do not have an end in mind you will not focus on it’s completion.
Work on your mindset
Develop a positive approach to every aspect of your life, including your thoughts about how you will achieve your goals. Read inspirational books & believe in your own abilities.
Develop your skillset
It is very possible that a new goal will necessitate learning a new skill or will require some form of personal growth. Figure out what new knowledge you will need, or what new skills you will have to develop. Find the best source for gaining this knowledge & invest wisely to develop the skills you need.
Take the first step
It is important not to procrastinate. The moment when real action is required is often when many goals fall by the wayside. You don’t need to wait until everything is just right. Get started now & make adjustments as you go along. Take that first step. Remember the first step is always the hardest one to take.
Continue to completion
The path to the ultimate completion of your goal is unlikely to be a straight and simple one. Do not give up when you encounter the first or any subsequent obstacles. Always keep the end result in focus, maintain your excitement & enthusiasm, & keep moving forward. See each difficulty you meet as an opportunity for learning and growth.
When you complete your goal it is important to reward yourself for this achievement. Look back over your accomplishments & enjoy the satisfaction that success brings. This will train the subconscious mind to focus on activities that produce successful results. It is not just about the end result, it is also about growth & who you become. Once you have enjoyed your reward, set your next goal, making it bigger & more challenging than the last.
OMG it is February already! I feel as February is the month where we celebrate Valentine's Day, it is a good time to remind you to love yourself first.
You are amazing and you deserve your love. Also how can you expect anyone to love you if you do not love yourself.
If you are someone that does not love themselves at the moment, or have always found it hard to love yourself, then you are not looking in the right place.
Instead of looking at what you feel is not right about yourself, focus on your heart and your soul and start to see what everyone else sees.
Treat yourself with the love and kindness you give to others. As you are amazing just the way you are!
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Believe in yourself
sWe all seem to forget that if you want something different out of your life you have to put something different into it. If we keep doing the same things, we’ll keep getting the same results.
So many of us play the woe is me card and complain about things that are actually in our control. We stay in a situation, even if we don’t like it just because it’s what’s comfortable.
How often do you wish for something and hope it will magically happen? You want a new job without really doing the necessary work, you want to lose 10 pounds without evaluating your habits, you want the love of your life come into your life without making an effort yourself.
The reality is you have to work at it and for it. Sometimes that’s listening to yourself, or taking a risk even if you are nervous and afraid, or to stop making excuses and commit to a decision.
Changing your perspective is also a way to not do the same thing you’ve always done. Looking at a situation in a different way may help you act in a different way, resulting in a more desired outcome.
Remember if something still doesn’t work out for you, you can try again, and again. Your life can be whatever you dream it to be, if you truly want it and you start to do things differently!
Hiring a Life Coach is a great way to help you do things differently in your life. If you are interested I would love to hear from you.
Age is just a number!
Some of you will agree with this statement & others won’t. This is the difference between a growth or a fixed mindset. People with a growth mindset don’t let their age or their current stage in life hold them back. Whereas people with a fixed mindset are more likely to take on board societies viewpoint of how you ‘should’ act at different stage of life.
We all have a choice on how we ‘choose’ to see our age and our lives. Even if situations in life that are beyond our control happen, you still have a choice on how you perceive what happens to you & how you feel about it.
Most women I Life Coach are in their 40’s, 50’s & 60’s and we discuss how we are all drivers in our lives. Therefore we need to know the route to our dreams & goals that we are aiming for. You wouldn’t get in your car & start driving not knowing where you are going, so why would you do that in your life?
Don’t let the number of your age define who you are & what you do. Drive towards your goals & dreams & put your foot down!
Have you ever thought about having a Life Coach? Do you need help to achieve your goals & dreams? If you do, I would love to hear from you.
When was the last time you really unplugged and relaxed?
Life is so busy and full on for so many of us. I know in lockdown our lives are in some ways more simple, however in others it is more stressful and demanding.
Some of us are having to look after older relatives as they shielding, or working from home with everyone else in the house, or having to home school our children.
It can feel as if there is just not enough time in the day to take time out for yourself. However this is counterintuitive, as in the long run not taking time out makes you less efficient and more exhausted.
Try taking 10-15 minutes out of your day to read a book you love, meditate, listen to your favourite music or take a walk in nature. You will feel so much better, be more efficient and be able to focus more clearly on what you need to do.
How are you going to unplug today?
At the moment with lockdown & all the changes in our lives that we have to deal with, the little things really are the big things!
It's very easy to feel that you have nothing good in your life & how hard life is. However, life is what you focus on.
Instead of focusing on what's wrong, start to feel grateful for what you have. I know it may feel that there isn't anything, but there always is something.
I know when most people think about being grateful they think it has to be something obvious like their relationships, work or where they live.
I love the idea of micro-gratitude, where you are grateful and actually enjoy the small moments in life that we are normally just too busy to notice. Moments like eating your favourite meal, having a chat with a friend, getting into fresh, clean sheets to name a few.
Notice these moments and enjoy the pleasure they give you. You will be amazed how much happier and grateful you are for what you have in your life.