The fear of failure is often paralysing and holds us back. Fear keeps us from living our truth and acting on new ideas.
Fear of failure is counter intuitive, as failure gives us the opportunity to learn from our mistakes and apply our learnings to something bigger and better.
If we always let the fear of failure be bigger than the opportunity to succeed, we would never grow and learn important lesson.
If you feel fear of failure is holding you back and want help going forward in your life, please contact me to arrange a free initial consultation.
So many of us give up at the first hurdle when following our dreams. We believe that we can't do it or decide it's too difficult.
Just look at a few examples of what wouldn't have happened if they gave up too soon:
Jack Canfield was turned down by 144 publishers for his Chicken Soup For The Soul books. He is now worth over $20 million.
Howard Schultz was turned down by 217 banks before he got funding for Starbucks. He is now worth $4.3 billion.
Sylvester Stallone sold his dog so that he could buy food. However, deep down he knew that he could write a winning film script. Then when he was offered more money than he had ever seen for Rocky, he turned it down as he wanted to play the lead role. Even when he was broke and was told he would never act in films, he dreamed that he would be a successful actor. In the end they agreed he could play the lead role, but only if he accepted a percentage of the films royalties. By believing in his dreams Sylvester Stallone is now worth $400 million.
If you have a dream, then believe in yourself and don't listen to people who are trying to hold you back. Remember everything man-made was once someones imagination and dream. They took massive action and never gave up on their dreams.
Believe in yourself, believe in your dreams and become the person you know you can be.
At the moment we are all feeling that our lives are on hold and Covid-19 is stopping us doing the things we want to do.
Ok, we are unable to meet up with friends and family, we are not able to go out for dinner, go to the cinema or go on holiday. However, we are still able to make the most of each day and find new ways of bringing joy and happiness into our lives.
Life will always have times of hardship, sadness, restrictions and pain. These times are part of life and if we are able to learn from them and grow, we will enjoy and be grateful for the amazing times in our lives that are full of love, happiness and joy.
Focus on what you can do while in lockdown. I am seeing and hearing about so many people who are choosing to get fit, lose weight, start a small online business, find a new hobby and connect with people they have not seen for years.
You can also use this time to really connect with yourself and the special people in your life that normally we would just take for granted.
Choose joy and happiness in your life!
Tony Robbins teaches ‘Nothing in life has any meaning except the meaning you give it.’ On the surface this seems so simple, and it is. However, it’s not always easy to truly accept.
For a moment think about this… everything in the world has no happiness, joy, misery or envy! This might seem a strange statement, however this is because all emotions and meanings are what WE project onto a situation.
As difficult as this concept may be to grasp, the understanding of it is critical to live a life of true happiness and self-control. It takes discipline and mental strength to understand that nothing has meaning except for the meaning you give it. Ok, we are all influenced by the society we live in, and it is easy to feel the way we believe a situation should make us feel.
Once you accept this as true, it will mean that you will be in control of your thoughts, and your thoughts will dictate your feelings. All meaning and emotion comes from our ‘inner world’, the world of beliefs, thoughts and feelings. As the saying goes ‘ happiness is an inside job’.
Our ‘outer world’ is the world of situations, experiences and material items. It is very easy to be caught up in how other people act and feel, especially in highly emotive national or worldwide events, like Covid-19.
We would all be happier and more fulfilled in life if we focused on what we could do, instead of what we can’t do. Also remembering that how we see the world is a direct reflection of the meaning we give it.
It is your inner world that creates meaning for your outer world. When you come to master this you will be in complete control of your own experiences, results and destiny.
If you would like to help with your emotions or letting go of the past, please contact me to arrange a free on obligation initial consultation.
If you don’t like where you are in your life, you are not alone. So many people are unhappy with either their job, their relationship or their finances. I’m sure some of you are thinking it’s all three!
However, isn’t it strange that so many of us do not make changes or move away from the situation? Well, actually it’s not as we are governed by pleasure & pain. We accept the situation we are in as change is perceived as far more painful. Therefore we stay where are.
Here are 5 steps that will help you move & make changes in your life.
1 - Get Moving
To change our state & have more energy we need to move, I don’t mean to go for a run or go to the gym, but to move more often. So many of us are sat down for too long, either at work or at home in front of the TV. Change needs momentum & you will not get that if you don’t move your body. As Tony Robbins says, ‘emotion is created by motion’.
2 - Wake your conscious mind & limit choices
Waking our conscious minds to accept our reality & embrace change is one step toward finding out what we need to do next in our life. We become paralysed rather than liberated by the power of choice. When we are presented with too many options, our brain doesn’t know what to do with it all. When our minds focuses on fewer choices, it becomes easier to see the direction we want to go in.
3 - Take small steps
If change feels too overwhelming & far too big a task, chunk it. If you break any big decision into easy to manage pieces you will take action. You need to work towards what you want in life every day. Achieving daily tasks gives you the confidence to keep going. It also helps you avoid doing nothing while you’re feeling stuck.
4. Seek the wisdom of others
Benjamin Disraeli said, ‘The more extensive a man’s knowledge of what has been done, the greater will be his power of knowing what to do.’ Learning from people who have already got to where you want to go, the faster you will get to change. Reading other people’s stories about how they lived their lives & how they overcame their challenges in life can be a good source of motivation.
5. Learn About Yourself
Find out who you are, what your passions are, & what you want to do with your life. If you’re feeling stuck, it may simply be because you’ve lost touch with your most authentic self. If you’ve become detached from your own goals & dreams, it will be incredibly difficult to get back on track. To move forward, you have to let go of your past & embrace change. If you’re not sure where to start, make a list of your priorities, then you can identify where you need to put your energy to obtain the life you desire.
Change can be a tough journey, but it is also rewarding, as you will discover your life purpose & passion.
If you need help with change & moving forward please contact me.
Our lives are shaped by endless decisions that we make every day. Every action we take is a decision to not take another. Every decision we have ever made has shaped our life up until now. You have even made a decision to read this, which could take you in a slightly different direction.
Every day, we make decisions. Even the seemingly insignificant decisions we make can change the way we live the rest of our lives. However, we often ignore the countless ‘insignificant’ decisions we make daily that are slowly nudging us to a different direction, either away or closer to your dreams.
When we decide to watch TV, we are deciding to take time away from whatever else we dream of doing. Maybe it’s to start a business, lose weight, or learn something new. Whatever it is, you are taking time away from that goal when watching TV.
We make our decisions by the mental compasses we have in our mind. It points towards a certain direction. If your mental compass is pointing towards being fit or towards running your own business or not, it will shape you and point you in a certain direction.
Some people live their life pointing towards other people’s compass. They either conform to what society ask of them or they are chasing someone else’s dream that they don’t really want.
A couple of decisions in the wrong direction aren’t an issue. However, repeated decisions in the wrong direction will move you away from your dreams. Remember you can’t put on 2 stone overnight. If you choose to eat too much today, you won’t be overweight tomorrow. If you eat too much the following day you won’t be overweight the day after. However, if you choose to eat too much day after day after day, you will become overweight.
The decisions you make everyday are contributing to your result someday in the future. What will it be? Is it going to result in you gaining 2 stone? Is it going to help you launch a successful business? Who knows?
We really can’t control how our decisions affect the outcome. What we can control is to stack the odds in our favour. It’s all about playing the long game.
I love this caption. It has made me reflect on how much I have changed and gone through as an adult.
Big changes can come through failure, pain or fear. These difficult times shape us and allow us to learn and grow.
Making big changes in your life can be scary as we naturally go towards what we know. However, going for it and opening our wings can be life changing.
So don't be scared of failure, change or new challenges in life. See them as you growing into the person you want and deserve to be.
Now go and spread your wings!
If you feel you need help to make the changes you want in your life, please contact me for a free no obligation initial consultation.
What is the story you keep telling yourself that is holding you back and dragging you down?
Do you believe you are not able to achieve your goals or become the person you want to be? Do you feel you do not have the education, knowledge, experience, resources or time to change and grow? Is your story so big that it has become part of you?
Well, I am telling you from experience you can change. The resources aren’t the reason you aren’t where you want to be. You need to look at your beliefs and emotions, and decide you are worth more!
Like so many people I have had to overcome painful obstacles in my life, being an extremely shy child, finding school very challenging, dealing with M.E., working in a career that did not fulfil me at any level, having to cope with the emotional turmoil of my mother’s longterm illness and coming to terms with her loss.
We all have to deal with the hard knocks of life, however we can choose to take advantage of what can help us cope and grow, or just keep telling ourselves that it’s just they way we are and that our dream life is just that, a dream.
If you need help with overcoming the story you are telling yourself and feel I could help you, please contact me to arrange a free no obligation initial consultation.
Did you enjoy today or are you still carrying around yesterday?
Your mind is your greatest asset. Therefore when your mind isn't functioning at its highest capacity, your thoughts, behaviour & feelings will have a massive impact on your life.
Do you feel overwhelmed or think on a regular basis:
I am not enough
I can't change
I am not loveable
I am not capable
These thoughts have become your beliefs & you make decisions around them.
If you would like to change the way you feel about yourself & the world around you, why don't you give me a call?
Hypnotherapy & personal coaching can help you feel good about yourself again.
Why don't you message me to arrange a free no obligation 30 minute initial consultation.
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I've been a full time hypnotherapist and mind coach for over 12 years. My unique approach to therapy is client centred and I aim to educate and empower my clients to enable them to make positive choices and changes in their lives.