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You need to change inside to make changes outside!

30/7/2020

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Are you struggling with what is going on around you?⁣
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Do you find the changes in our world and the new 'normal' difficult to cope with?⁣
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Are you finding that you feel stressed and anxious a lot of the time?⁣
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The issue is that it's impossible to have control over your environment and therefore the more you try the harder life seems to get.⁣
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The easier route to a calmer, happier you is to make the changes you need inside your head.⁣
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Hypnotherapy is an amazing tool to make the shifts you need in your mindset to cope with everyday life, feel more confident and improve your self-esteem.⁣
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If you would like to discuss how hypnotherapy can help you please either call me on 07875 652338 or email me on ali@desireforchange.co.uk
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#believeinyourself⁣
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People treat you the way you allow them to!

10/7/2020

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Whether you realise it or not, each day you set the standard for how other people treat you!

You may not be consciously aware of this, most of us aren’t, but nevertheless, the standards you have established serve as guidelines for how you are treated in life.  To most of us this may come as quite a surprise, but whether or not you’ve intentionally defined standards for what is (or is not) acceptable in your life, you nevertheless have them.  Furthermore they are communicated to the world around you on a regular basis.

It is human nature to focus on the poor behaviour of other people for our problems, so the point needs to be made that teaching people how to treat you, begins with you, not them.

It is important to remember the way you treat yourself sets the standard for others.  For example; if you are always putting the interests and well-being of others first it might make you feel significant and wanted, however it teaches the people around you that your needs aren’t as important as theirs.

If you want to generate change that is meaningful and sustainable, you need to first recognise how your own behaviour contributes to the way others treat you. You can’t teach people how to treat you if you haven’t taken the time to clarify your standards for your life. You are responsible for communicating your standards clearly and respectfully, however you are not accountable for how others receive or interpret it, nor for how they feel as a result.

Create a plan of action for what will happen when your boundaries are crossed. Gently let people know when you feel your boundaries are not being respected. Most people will mean no harm, and may simply be used to behaving in a certain way and are unaware of the impact their actions are having on you and other people around them.

There are going to be people who test your efforts and a few who will outright ignore your requests. Before assuming the other person is disrespecting your boundary, step back and be really honest with yourself about how you communicated your standard in the first place. Were you clear, or was your message left vague in the hope they would just somehow get it so you could avoid the discomfort of being up front?

The important thing is not to let it continue because they will see it as a sign you don’t take your own boundary seriously. This is where you need to have clearly defined consequences and be prepared to follow through.

Taking responsibility for defining the life you want to live and teaching others what is acceptable behaviour toward you is the ultimate exercise being treated the way you want to be treated. It’s about living your life with full intention; making smart choices and exercising your personal power and authority to achieve greater freedom, happiness, and long-term life happiness.
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In the beginning, it’s going to be tempting to revert to old behaviours, however keep reminding yourself that there’s a big difference between being accommodating and not respecting who you are.

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How can hypnotherapy online work for you?

1/7/2020

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We are all getting used to a more virtual world due to Covid 19. The good news is hypnotherapy can be provided online. It’s convenient, easy to access and just as effective as working face to face.

We are all now becoming more accustomed to meeting people online via applications like Zoom, Skype or FaceTime. Recently, I have been seeing all my clients online for their hypnotherapy sessions. 

I have been asked if online hypnotherapy is as effective as face to face hypnotherapy? Also if hypnosis works online? Well, I can tell you from experience that my answer to both these questions is yes! 
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Here are the top five questions I have been asked about online hypnotherapy, which you may find useful if you are thinking about hypnotherapy.

1. What is online hypnotherapy exactly?
Online hypnotherapy is a safe and convenient alternative to face to face sessions. It is just as effective and follows the same structured approach. It’s very useful due to the restrictions of Covid 19. It is also useful if you are restricted by time, location, or medical conditions, therefore making it accessible to all.

2. Is online hypnotherapy as effective as face to face hypnotherapy?
Absolutely. Online hypnotherapy is just as effective, there is no difference. Some people find they are more relaxed and comfortable when they are in their own home, which can only add to the positive outcome as we work together. 

3. Can hypnosis really be done online?
Hypnosis doesn’t rely on having a therapist in the room with you. We all go in and out of a hypnotic state, also known as ‘trance state’ several times a day. For example, watching a good film or reading a book, and we find we completely lose track of time. A trance state is a very natural and safe state where you’ll remain in complete control and can be easily achieved as long as you hear the hypnotherapist’s voice.

4. How does hypnotherapy work on Zoom?
Using Zoom for virtual hypnotherapy sessions couldn’t be easier. You will need a reliable internet connection and a quiet, comfortable place to relax where you will not be disturbed. Once we have agreed a time for your session, I will send you a unique link for each session which is safe and secure and only you will have access to it. You can use a laptop (with a camera), tablet or phone to join your session. All you need to do is place your device in front of you so I can see your upper body and face. I will then guide you into ‘hypnosis’, a state of focused attention where your mind is more responsive to positive suggestions. 

5. How do I know online hypnotherapy will work for me?
Online hypnotherapy is just as effective as face to face therapy. It’s important that you choose the right therapist for you, someone you feel comfortable talking to and trust. This is why I offer a free initial consultation online which gives you an opportunity to meet me and ask any questions you many have. If you really have a desire for change then hypnotherapy online can help you get from where you are to where you want to be.
Hypnotherapy can help you with so many issues that you are trying to deal and cope with; anxiety, stress, weight loss, phobias, smoking cessation, confidence and self-esteem, past events that you find hard to let go of.  You do not have to feel the way you do, we can work together to help you feel the way you want to. If you’d like to have a free, no obligation initial consultation to explore if hypnotherapy with myself is a good fit for you, please contact me.

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