Life is 10% of what happens & 90% of how you react to it. In life, attitude is everything; it is what shapes our beliefs & our desires. Tough times will happen throughout our lives, but it is up to us how we interpret them.
Many people blame their circumstances for their shortcomings & as a result accept the harsh reality of their situation. These people believe an event is equivalent to its outcome; however, for some adversity is where they thrive.
People who succeed realise it is not what has happened to them in their lives, but the manner in which they react to these events. The way a person decides to respond to situations is what will shape their feelings, actions & results.
We can choose to live the life we want, no matter how tough it can get. It is all a matter of mentality, only we will prevent ourselves from achieving greatness. The rest are just small detours before we reach our destinations.
Adversity is something that everyone faces at some point in their life. These difficult times however are not what define us, but the way in which we react to them is. Anyone can be defeated when life does not go as planned, but the strong survivors are the people who can overcome such hardships.
Knowledge comes from everything we do & what happens to us. We learn valuable lessons based on our experiences & the ways in which we react to them. Every hardship presents an opportunity, we just need to recognise that instead of letting it defeat us. Your thoughts & attitude change your experiences & shape your life.
You have a choice when it comes to reactions & although in the moment, you want to get angry, you need to actively remind yourself why it would be detrimental.
You always have a choice of how you are going to respond to what the world offers you. Do not let something dictate the way you react to things. You need to look within yourself & realise that you have the power to make things happen. We are a sum of all of our life’s experiences, so use these past lessons to help better your life in the now!
If you need help in letting go of past events that are holding your back, or have a fear or phobia that prevents you living the life you desire, hypnotherapy can help you. Give me a call or email me to see how hypnotherapy can help you.
It’s important to learn to love yourself, because if you don’t love yourself it will be hard to accept that others love you.
Loving yourself should become your highest priority if you wish to create a truly happy future. I’m not talking about loving yourself in a self-centred, egotistical way. I’m talking about loving yourself by embracing your uniqueness and what shows up in your daily life.
Unfortunately low self-esteem prevents your personal growth by restricting your concept of yourself. You may never reach your full potential if you entertain recurring thoughts of low self-esteem.
Here are 6 ways to reconnect with yourself and develop a stronger relationship with who you really are:
As humans we desire personal growth. To enable yourself to grow it is vital that you understand yourself and know what makes you happy. Most people are more aware of their flaws than their skills, however remember nobody is perfect . You cannot have light without shade, get to know all of you. Remember you are just as important as anyone else and you should be the driver of your own life’s journey.
Stop Criticising Yourself
Criticising yourself will get you nowhere really fast. Would you talk to your friends the way you talk to yourself? People who practice self compassion are more successful and have a healthier outlook on life.
Embrace the Positive
When you entertain positive thoughts, you become kinder towards yourself. Your self love and self-esteem increases, along with kindness towards yourself and others. Everyone is born positive, it’s simply the environment that shapes each individual. You still have a choice to embrace the positive, nothing is carved in stone unless you give it power and permission.
Worrying uses up vital emotional energy which could be channelled into joy and happiness. The more you entertain worrying thoughts, the more you establish worrying as a habit. Remember 97% of what you worry about never happens. Set your worries aside as they are holding you back from your true potential.
We all make mistakes at some point in our life . Holding on to your mistakes by thinking negatively about yourself will not allow you to live the life you deserve. Learn to forgive yourself by practicing detachment, trust that whatever happened in the past is in the past! Move on and appreciate the lessons gained from your experience by seeing it as an opportunity to gain knowledge and resilience to be the best version of you.
Gratitude entails being thankful for what you have right NOW. Being grateful does not mean comparing yourself to others who are more or less fortunate than you. It is being thankful for the small things in your life, the people in your life and that you get another day to live your life.
Be the person who you love and respect, be someone who makes YOU happy!
We can be our worst critic. This is because we naturally have a negative bias towards ourselves. This means we give more weight to our flaws, mistakes and shortcomings than our successes. This self criticism can take a toll on our minds and bodies. It can lead to continuous thoughts that interfere with our productivity and health.
Basically, beating yourself up does not support growth, motivation and positive change. We need to develop an approach of self compassion and a willingness to let go of what is holding us back and weighing us down.
So how do we do this?
The first step is to make the choice that you will at least try to be nicer to yourself. Commit to treating yourself more kindly by letting go of self judgment, go easy on yourself and practice self compassion.
The next step is to meet your criticism with kindness. If your inner critic says, ‘You’re lazy and not worthy,’ respond with ‘You’re doing your best’ or ‘You're more than enough.’
The last step is the most important step if you want self compassion. It is to make a deliberate, conscious effort to recognise the difference between how you feel when caught up in self criticism, and how you feel when you can let go of it.
Try to think about it this way - how much better might you feel if you take a deep breath after making a mistake, rather than berating yourself? Then think to yourself what would you say to a friend if they were in the same situation?
If a friend said, ‘I’m feeling lazy and not worthy.’ You wouldn’t be hard and mean to them, you would be kind and helpful. You would explain that they are enough and they did their best.
Treat yourself as you would a best friend and don’t be so hard on yourself.
Be kind to yourself as you deserve your love too!
We have to make countless decisions every day. Every action we take is a decision to not take another. Whether it’s to get up early or late? Have porridge or toast for breakfast? Go for a walk or sit and watch TV? Look for another job or stay in a job? Move house or not? Our lives are shaped by the decisions we make!
Every day, we make hundreds of decisions. Whether small or large our decisions can change the way we live the rest of our lives.
When we decide to watch TV, we are deciding to take time away from whatever we dream of doing. Maybe it’s to start a business, lose weight, or learn a new language. Whatever it is, you are taking time away from your dreams if you decide not to take action towards them.
If you decide that you are someone that gets up early every morning, you have decided that’s the type of person you are. Even if you have a very late night and the alarm goes off early you have already decided what type of person you are and you do not sway you from your decision.
Some people live their life without making any real decisions. They are like a piece of driftwood in the ocean, floating to wherever the current brings them. Therefore they end up with whatever direction the environment throws at them.
No one becomes overweight overnight, if you decided to over eat today, you won’t be overweight tomorrow. If you decide to over eat tomorrow, you still won’t be overweight the day after. But if you decide to over eat day, after day, after day. It’s hard not to become overweight over time.
We can’t completely control how our decisions affect the outcome. What we can control is the decisions we make on a regular basis as that is what truly shapes our lives.
Making the decision to see a hypnotherapist could help you with the issues you are dealing with. It could be a decision that will shape the rest of your life.
What are you going to decide today that will shape your future?
I've been a full time hypnotherapist and mind coach for over 12 years. My unique approach to therapy is client centred and I aim to educate and empower my clients to enable them to make positive choices and changes in their lives.