 sWe all seem to forget that if you want something different out of your life you have to put something different into it. If we keep doing the same things, we’ll keep getting the same results.
So many of us play the woe is me card and complain about things that are actually in our control. We stay in a situation, even if we don’t like it just because it’s what’s comfortable. How often do you wish for something and hope it will magically happen? You want a new job without really doing the necessary work, you want to lose 10 pounds without evaluating your habits, you want the love of your life come into your life without making an effort yourself. The reality is you have to work at it and for it. Sometimes that’s listening to yourself, or taking a risk even if you are nervous and afraid, or to stop making excuses and commit to a decision. Changing your perspective is also a way to not do the same thing you’ve always done. Looking at a situation in a different way may help you act in a different way, resulting in a more desired outcome. Remember if something still doesn’t work out for you, you can try again, and again. Your life can be whatever you dream it to be, if you truly want it and you start to do things differently! Hiring a Life Coach is a great way to help you do things differently in your life. If you are interested I would love to hear from you.
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 Age is just a number!
Some of you will agree with this statement & others won’t. This is the difference between a growth or a fixed mindset. People with a growth mindset don’t let their age or their current stage in life hold them back. Whereas people with a fixed mindset are more likely to take on board societies viewpoint of how you ‘should’ act at different stage of life. We all have a choice on how we ‘choose’ to see our age and our lives. Even if situations in life that are beyond our control happen, you still have a choice on how you perceive what happens to you & how you feel about it. Most women I Life Coach are in their 40’s, 50’s & 60’s and we discuss how we are all drivers in our lives. Therefore we need to know the route to our dreams & goals that we are aiming for. You wouldn’t get in your car & start driving not knowing where you are going, so why would you do that in your life? Don’t let the number of your age define who you are & what you do. Drive towards your goals & dreams & put your foot down! Have you ever thought about having a Life Coach? Do you need help to achieve your goals & dreams? If you do, I would love to hear from you.  When was the last time you really unplugged and relaxed?
Life is so busy and full on for so many of us. I know in lockdown our lives are in some ways more simple, however in others it is more stressful and demanding. Some of us are having to look after older relatives as they shielding, or working from home with everyone else in the house, or having to home school our children. It can feel as if there is just not enough time in the day to take time out for yourself. However this is counterintuitive, as in the long run not taking time out makes you less efficient and more exhausted. Try taking 10-15 minutes out of your day to read a book you love, meditate, listen to your favourite music or take a walk in nature. You will feel so much better, be more efficient and be able to focus more clearly on what you need to do. How are you going to unplug today?  At the moment with lockdown & all the changes in our lives that we have to deal with, the little things really are the big things!
It's very easy to feel that you have nothing good in your life & how hard life is. However, life is what you focus on. Instead of focusing on what's wrong, start to feel grateful for what you have. I know it may feel that there isn't anything, but there always is something. I know when most people think about being grateful they think it has to be something obvious like their relationships, work or where they live. I love the idea of micro-gratitude, where you are grateful and actually enjoy the small moments in life that we are normally just too busy to notice. Moments like eating your favourite meal, having a chat with a friend, getting into fresh, clean sheets to name a few. Notice these moments and enjoy the pleasure they give you. You will be amazed how much happier and grateful you are for what you have in your life.  Did you jump out of bed and start your morning routine with even more vigour this morning to start your New Year? Or did you decide it was too early, too cold, you were too tired or just couldn't be bother to jump out of bed early?
The decisions we make shape our lives. If you want 2021 to be 'your' year, you need to decide to take action and achieve your goals and dreams. I'm not saying it will be easy, however I know that you are worth making the right decisions for. Wishing you a healthy, happy and successful 2021!  How big are your dreams and goals?
Are you playing big in your mind and taking small steps everyday towards your dreams and goals? Unfortunately most people I talk to say they either dream small or they don’t dream about what life could be like at all! Our lives are what we make them, and everything that’s manmade was once someone’s dream or goal! If you are always thinking about what you would love to do or what life could be like, start making your dreams and goals bigger and brighter in your mind. You can also design a vision board to help you create bigger dreams and goals. They are great as every time you walk past your vision board it will remind you where you want to go and who you want to be. Your mind is programmed to focus on what you think about. Therefore the more you think about your dreams and goals, and the bigger you make them, the more your mind will look out for opportunities that will take you there. Life is not linear, therefore your past does not have to equal your future. Dream big, take daily action and create the life you desire. If you feel lost, or you are not sure what you really want in life, or you want help turning your dreams and goals into reality, please contact me. I would love to help you get to where you deserve to be.  Are you endlessly trying to perfect what you are working on? Do you find that you are not achieving your goals as you feel they are not quite right?
Do you feel putting your most creative ideas out there in the real world fills you with fear as it never feels good enough? You are not alone, it is normal to want to present your best possible version of what you are creating! However, sometimes this just holds us back and stops us moving towards our goals and dreams. Unfortunately perfectionism leads to a paralysis that doesn’t let you finish your tasks. We see not getting it completely right as a failure. However, the real failure is not actually accomplishing your dreams and goals. It’s not about whether your creation is good or bad. It’s whether you think the fear of getting it wrong is worth holding you back and stopping you sharing your vision with the world. Another thing to remember is we do not live in isolation, we are part of our environment. Therefore if we share our creation, dreams and goals with the people around us they can help us take it to another level. You will find that most people want to help you grow and succeed. You will also learn so much by actually doing, instead of thinking, worrying and putting it off to another day. So go on, just do it!  Every morning we all make a decision on how we feel, whether this is a conscious or an automatic unconscious decision. Unfortunately most of us do not think about it and we let the events of yesterday, last week, month, or even year dictate how we feel in that moment and for the rest of the day.
I hear you say, what about hating my job, Covid-19 or some other issue going on? Of course we all have to deal with hard times in our lives, and at the moment life is harder for a lot of people. However, you do not have to let life dictate how you feel. We all know people that look like they swan through life without a care in the world, then you find out the problems and issues they have been dealing with. They have just chosen to deal with what life has thrown their way and be as happy as they can under the circumstances. I know it is not realistic to be happy everyday and all day. However, we can choose every morning that we will start from a happy place and make the most of our day. Remember we cannot control what is going on around us, but we can control how we feel and act. It is better to decide how we feel rather than letting our minds go to habitual feelings and automatically be sad, angry or annoyed. How did you decide this morning about how you are feeling today? How about waking up tomorrow and choosing to be happy and have the best possible day you can? You might be surprised by the results!  The fear of failure is often paralysing and holds us back. Fear keeps us from living our truth and acting on new ideas.
Fear of failure is counter intuitive, as failure gives us the opportunity to learn from our mistakes and apply our learnings to something bigger and better. If we always let the fear of failure be bigger than the opportunity to succeed, we would never grow and learn important lesson. If you feel fear of failure is holding you back and want help going forward in your life, please contact me to arrange a free initial consultation.  So many of us give up at the first hurdle when following our dreams. We believe that we can't do it or decide it's too difficult.
Just look at a few examples of what wouldn't have happened if they gave up too soon: Jack Canfield was turned down by 144 publishers for his Chicken Soup For The Soul books. He is now worth over $20 million. Howard Schultz was turned down by 217 banks before he got funding for Starbucks. He is now worth $4.3 billion. Sylvester Stallone sold his dog so that he could buy food. However, deep down he knew that he could write a winning film script. Then when he was offered more money than he had ever seen for Rocky, he turned it down as he wanted to play the lead role. Even when he was broke and was told he would never act in films, he dreamed that he would be a successful actor. In the end they agreed he could play the lead role, but only if he accepted a percentage of the films royalties. By believing in his dreams Sylvester Stallone is now worth $400 million. If you have a dream, then believe in yourself and don't listen to people who are trying to hold you back. Remember everything man-made was once someones imagination and dream. They took massive action and never gave up on their dreams. Believe in yourself, believe in your dreams and become the person you know you can be. |
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