Our lives are shaped by endless decisions that we make every day. Every action we take is a decision to not take another. Every decision we have ever made has shaped our life up until now. You have even made a decision to read this, which could take you in a slightly different direction.
Every day, we make decisions. Even the seemingly insignificant decisions we make can change the way we live the rest of our lives. However, we often ignore the countless ‘insignificant’ decisions we make daily that are slowly nudging us to a different direction, either away or closer to your dreams.
When we decide to watch TV, we are deciding to take time away from whatever else we dream of doing. Maybe it’s to start a business, lose weight, or learn something new. Whatever it is, you are taking time away from that goal when watching TV.
We make our decisions by the mental compasses we have in our mind. It points towards a certain direction. If your mental compass is pointing towards being fit or towards running your own business or not, it will shape you and point you in a certain direction.
Some people live their life pointing towards other people’s compass. They either conform to what society ask of them or they are chasing someone else’s dream that they don’t really want.
A couple of decisions in the wrong direction aren’t an issue. However, repeated decisions in the wrong direction will move you away from your dreams. Remember you can’t put on 2 stone overnight. If you choose to eat too much today, you won’t be overweight tomorrow. If you eat too much the following day you won’t be overweight the day after. However, if you choose to eat too much day after day after day, you will become overweight.
The decisions you make everyday are contributing to your result someday in the future. What will it be? Is it going to result in you gaining 2 stone? Is it going to help you launch a successful business? Who knows?
We really can’t control how our decisions affect the outcome. What we can control is to stack the odds in our favour. It’s all about playing the long game.
I love this caption. It has made me reflect on how much I have changed and gone through as an adult.
Big changes can come through failure, pain or fear. These difficult times shape us and allow us to learn and grow.
Making big changes in your life can be scary as we naturally go towards what we know. However, going for it and opening our wings can be life changing.
So don't be scared of failure, change or new challenges in life. See them as you growing into the person you want and deserve to be.
Now go and spread your wings!
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What is the story you keep telling yourself that is holding you back and dragging you down?
Do you believe you are not able to achieve your goals or become the person you want to be? Do you feel you do not have the education, knowledge, experience, resources or time to change and grow? Is your story so big that it has become part of you?
Well, I am telling you from experience you can change. The resources aren’t the reason you aren’t where you want to be. You need to look at your beliefs and emotions, and decide you are worth more!
Like so many people I have had to overcome painful obstacles in my life, being an extremely shy child, finding school very challenging, dealing with M.E., working in a career that did not fulfil me at any level, having to cope with the emotional turmoil of my mother’s longterm illness and coming to terms with her loss.
We all have to deal with the hard knocks of life, however we can choose to take advantage of what can help us cope and grow, or just keep telling ourselves that it’s just they way we are and that our dream life is just that, a dream.
If you need help with overcoming the story you are telling yourself and feel I could help you, please contact me to arrange a free no obligation initial consultation.
Did you enjoy today or are you still carrying around yesterday?
Your mind is your greatest asset. Therefore when your mind isn't functioning at its highest capacity, your thoughts, behaviour & feelings will have a massive impact on your life.
Do you feel overwhelmed or think on a regular basis:
I am not enough
I can't change
I am not loveable
I am not capable
These thoughts have become your beliefs & you make decisions around them.
If you would like to change the way you feel about yourself & the world around you, why don't you give me a call?
Hypnotherapy & personal coaching can help you feel good about yourself again.
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So many people live in the past, holding onto what went wrong & reliving how it made them feel. Also their minds worry about the future, catastrophising about what might happen.
Our minds try to make sense of the past & protect us from the future. However, all that happens is we relive the past over & over again, then we do not understand why we cannot let it go. We worry about all the things that might happen, to find that none of them actually did. So we had all that worry for nothing!
Does this sound familiar?
Living in the now & being fully present fills you with the joy of what is in front of you. Really engaging with what you are doing without distraction of the past, the future & your phone is the only thing that is truly real.
Of course look back and relive the good times. Think about & plan your future, so life runs more smoothly.
Just don't get caught up in overwhelming thoughts that rob you from living your best now!
If you need help letting go of your past or to stop your constant worry, please contact me to arrange a free, no obligation 30 minute initial consultation.
Your little voice tries to provide you with a sense of security, as well as keep you safe and comfortable with your surroundings. If things change too much around you, your little voice sounds an alarm. It will say no, step on the brakes and do what it can to shut you down. Your little voice doesn’t want change. Above all, it needs to be right. This is because being right means you’re safe and secure. Unfortunately there’s a problem with that, as being right is an illusion.
When feeling threatened, your little voice creates fear. It wants things to stay the same and knows that fear freezes flow. It will call on your subconscious fears so you won’t even know why you are afraid to move forward in your life even when you have a strong conscious desire to do so.
Your little voice is nothing more than a collection of automated and habituated patterns of thought. These eventually became distorted glasses that we perceive reality. These glasses tend to disempower rather than empower you. The biggest problem is you don’t perceive what you see through these glasses as filtered perceptions, you perceive it as reality itself!
The worse part is you start experiencing your little voice and the way you see life through your glasses as reality, the way you really are. You then put your trust in the rules that the little voice echoes, thinking that you are trusting yourself and give up your identity and dreams.
If you don’t take control over it, your little voice will destroy your emotional life piece by piece. This is because emotion is the fuel for your entire life, it will effect your relationships, your career, your health and what you want to do with your life.
The good news is you do not have to fall prey to it. It’s time to silence it. Tone it down and quiet it. Hypnosis is a great way of doing this. Using hypnosis daily gives your mind time to calm down and feel more confident. Also working with a hypnotherapist you can work through what your mind is holding on to, which in turn will quieten your little voice and help you see clearly through your glasses of life.
Life is 10% of what happens & 90% of how you react to it. In life, attitude is everything; it is what shapes our beliefs & our desires. Tough times will happen throughout our lives, but it is up to us how we interpret them.
Many people blame their circumstances for their shortcomings & as a result accept the harsh reality of their situation. These people believe an event is equivalent to its outcome; however, for some adversity is where they thrive.
People who succeed realise it is not what has happened to them in their lives, but the manner in which they react to these events. The way a person decides to respond to situations is what will shape their feelings, actions & results.
We can choose to live the life we want, no matter how tough it can get. It is all a matter of mentality, only we will prevent ourselves from achieving greatness. The rest are just small detours before we reach our destinations.
Adversity is something that everyone faces at some point in their life. These difficult times however are not what define us, but the way in which we react to them is. Anyone can be defeated when life does not go as planned, but the strong survivors are the people who can overcome such hardships.
Knowledge comes from everything we do & what happens to us. We learn valuable lessons based on our experiences & the ways in which we react to them. Every hardship presents an opportunity, we just need to recognise that instead of letting it defeat us. Your thoughts & attitude change your experiences & shape your life.
You have a choice when it comes to reactions & although in the moment, you want to get angry, you need to actively remind yourself why it would be detrimental.
You always have a choice of how you are going to respond to what the world offers you. Do not let something dictate the way you react to things. You need to look within yourself & realise that you have the power to make things happen. We are a sum of all of our life’s experiences, so use these past lessons to help better your life in the now!
If you need help in letting go of past events that are holding your back, or have a fear or phobia that prevents you living the life you desire, hypnotherapy can help you. Give me a call or email me to see how hypnotherapy can help you.
It’s important to learn to love yourself, because if you don’t love yourself it will be hard to accept that others love you.
Loving yourself should become your highest priority if you wish to create a truly happy future. I’m not talking about loving yourself in a self-centred, egotistical way. I’m talking about loving yourself by embracing your uniqueness and what shows up in your daily life.
Unfortunately low self-esteem prevents your personal growth by restricting your concept of yourself. You may never reach your full potential if you entertain recurring thoughts of low self-esteem.
Here are 6 ways to reconnect with yourself and develop a stronger relationship with who you really are:
As humans we desire personal growth. To enable yourself to grow it is vital that you understand yourself and know what makes you happy. Most people are more aware of their flaws than their skills, however remember nobody is perfect . You cannot have light without shade, get to know all of you. Remember you are just as important as anyone else and you should be the driver of your own life’s journey.
Stop Criticising Yourself
Criticising yourself will get you nowhere really fast. Would you talk to your friends the way you talk to yourself? People who practice self compassion are more successful and have a healthier outlook on life.
Embrace the Positive
When you entertain positive thoughts, you become kinder towards yourself. Your self love and self-esteem increases, along with kindness towards yourself and others. Everyone is born positive, it’s simply the environment that shapes each individual. You still have a choice to embrace the positive, nothing is carved in stone unless you give it power and permission.
Worrying uses up vital emotional energy which could be channelled into joy and happiness. The more you entertain worrying thoughts, the more you establish worrying as a habit. Remember 97% of what you worry about never happens. Set your worries aside as they are holding you back from your true potential.
We all make mistakes at some point in our life . Holding on to your mistakes by thinking negatively about yourself will not allow you to live the life you deserve. Learn to forgive yourself by practicing detachment, trust that whatever happened in the past is in the past! Move on and appreciate the lessons gained from your experience by seeing it as an opportunity to gain knowledge and resilience to be the best version of you.
Gratitude entails being thankful for what you have right NOW. Being grateful does not mean comparing yourself to others who are more or less fortunate than you. It is being thankful for the small things in your life, the people in your life and that you get another day to live your life.
Be the person who you love and respect, be someone who makes YOU happy!
We can be our worst critic. This is because we naturally have a negative bias towards ourselves. This means we give more weight to our flaws, mistakes and shortcomings than our successes. This self criticism can take a toll on our minds and bodies. It can lead to continuous thoughts that interfere with our productivity and health.
Basically, beating yourself up does not support growth, motivation and positive change. We need to develop an approach of self compassion and a willingness to let go of what is holding us back and weighing us down.
So how do we do this?
The first step is to make the choice that you will at least try to be nicer to yourself. Commit to treating yourself more kindly by letting go of self judgment, go easy on yourself and practice self compassion.
The next step is to meet your criticism with kindness. If your inner critic says, ‘You’re lazy and not worthy,’ respond with ‘You’re doing your best’ or ‘You're more than enough.’
The last step is the most important step if you want self compassion. It is to make a deliberate, conscious effort to recognise the difference between how you feel when caught up in self criticism, and how you feel when you can let go of it.
Try to think about it this way - how much better might you feel if you take a deep breath after making a mistake, rather than berating yourself? Then think to yourself what would you say to a friend if they were in the same situation?
If a friend said, ‘I’m feeling lazy and not worthy.’ You wouldn’t be hard and mean to them, you would be kind and helpful. You would explain that they are enough and they did their best.
Treat yourself as you would a best friend and don’t be so hard on yourself.
Be kind to yourself as you deserve your love too!
I've been a full time hypnotherapist and mind coach for over 12 years. My unique approach to therapy is client centred and I aim to educate and empower my clients to enable them to make positive choices and changes in their lives.