If you don’t like where you are in your life, you are not alone. So many people are unhappy with either their job, their relationship or their finances. I’m sure some of you are thinking it’s all three!
However, isn’t it strange that so many of us do not make changes or move away from the situation? Well, actually it’s not as we are governed by pleasure & pain. We accept the situation we are in as change is perceived as far more painful. Therefore we stay where are.
Here are 5 steps that will help you move & make changes in your life.
1 - Get Moving
To change our state & have more energy we need to move, I don’t mean to go for a run or go to the gym, but to move more often. So many of us are sat down for too long, either at work or at home in front of the TV. Change needs momentum & you will not get that if you don’t move your body. As Tony Robbins says, ‘emotion is created by motion’.
2 - Wake your conscious mind & limit choices
Waking our conscious minds to accept our reality & embrace change is one step toward finding out what we need to do next in our life. We become paralysed rather than liberated by the power of choice. When we are presented with too many options, our brain doesn’t know what to do with it all. When our minds focuses on fewer choices, it becomes easier to see the direction we want to go in.
3 - Take small steps
If change feels too overwhelming & far too big a task, chunk it. If you break any big decision into easy to manage pieces you will take action. You need to work towards what you want in life every day. Achieving daily tasks gives you the confidence to keep going. It also helps you avoid doing nothing while you’re feeling stuck.
4. Seek the wisdom of others
Benjamin Disraeli said, ‘The more extensive a man’s knowledge of what has been done, the greater will be his power of knowing what to do.’ Learning from people who have already got to where you want to go, the faster you will get to change. Reading other people’s stories about how they lived their lives & how they overcame their challenges in life can be a good source of motivation.
5. Learn About Yourself
Find out who you are, what your passions are, & what you want to do with your life. If you’re feeling stuck, it may simply be because you’ve lost touch with your most authentic self. If you’ve become detached from your own goals & dreams, it will be incredibly difficult to get back on track. To move forward, you have to let go of your past & embrace change. If you’re not sure where to start, make a list of your priorities, then you can identify where you need to put your energy to obtain the life you desire.
Change can be a tough journey, but it is also rewarding, as you will discover your life purpose & passion.
If you need help with change & moving forward please contact me.
I've been a full time hypnotherapist and mind coach for over 12 years. My unique approach to therapy is client centred and I aim to educate and empower my clients to enable them to make positive choices and changes in their lives.